Monday, September 24, 2007

Don't read this post if you don't want to see a breast

If my stepmother, Anne, knew I was doing this ... wait ... if any of the women in my family (except my sister) knew I was posting a photo of myself on the INTERNET! with my breast even partially exposed, well, have mercy on me.

But it's for a good cause.

In my state, I have the right to breastfeed my baby in public even if I might happen to expose a little flesh while making sure Fly is fed. All states have laws that allow a woman to nurse her baby in public, but the details vary. So why should it be any different to post online a sweet photo of baby nestled up to his mother? You see more flesh at the beach or even the gym -- and those people are advertising, not trying to feed a baby.

There's a huge online uproar now against Facebook for taking down photos showing women nursing their babies. And the uproar people are advocating deleting your Facebook account and telling Facebook exactly why. Well, I didn't have a Facebook account to delete. So I signed up. And then I deactivated my account, just for the pleasure of telling Facebook how backward they look. I'm not even going to link to Facebook in the post.

Learning to breastfeed Fly was really, really hard for me. Fly is a year old now, and I still nurse him (although I'm trying to wean him, and we're down to about three times a day). I have told people that I rank breastfeeding with getting my college degree in terms of how hard I had to work at it.

So you think I'm not going to celebrate a major accomplishment like that?! People take photos to celebrate milestones and to capture memories. Then they share their photos with one another, frame them, spend megabucks on srapbooking supplies to preserve them. Something as important as breastfeeding shouldn't be left out of that.

And that's why I'm sharing my photo.

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Blogger motherbumper said...

Fantastic post and a beautiful photo. BF is hard - we almost didn't make it but we slogged on through the pain and the crying (both of us) and I'm happy I can say that she was breast feed for the first 22 months. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful moment.

3:12 PM  
Blogger Jodi said...

Good for you! I couldn't breastfeed and I really, really wanted to.

4:38 PM  
Blogger mothergoosemouse said...

Three cheers for you and Flybaby!

4:44 PM  
Anonymous Naomi (Urban Mummy) said...

Whooo hooo!! Yay for you both!

(11.5 months and counting here!)

6:56 PM  
Blogger h&b said...

apparently though, slutty pics of your boobs WITHOUT bebes hanging off them are all A-OK on Facebook.

Go figure...

Lovely pic :)

7:18 PM  
Blogger oh amanda said...

I heard about this, too. I don't have any good pics of my bf Lydia. And now she doesn't nurse anymore. I should go delete my fb account, too. 'Course, I don't even use maybe that's the same.

Oh, and GOOD FOR YOU! You are brave, girl!

7:33 PM  
Anonymous Much More Than A Mom said...

Good for you for posting that. You'll be so glad you have pics like that once he's weaned. ;-)

8:10 PM  
Blogger Andrea said...

I am so happy you posted the picture and, well...the post! :) Seriously, breastfeeding is a HUGE part of a mommy's life and why should it be hidden and have people try to say it is private and should be tucked into a little itty bitty corner somewhere where no one can see or know what a WONDERFUL thing you are doing for your child.

9:18 PM  
Anonymous chelle said...

w00t you go girl!
I totally find it pathetic that Facebook has taken this stance!

9:27 PM  
Blogger carrielouise said...

Yeah! I'm totally deleting that sucker and I don't even breastfeed anymore. I don't use that stupid place anyway. Those stupid heads. I was beyond angry when I heard about all this a week ago.

11:46 PM  
Blogger Nadine said...

You're my hero. You just rock! I love that you posted this picture. It's one of the most natural things in life there is. More is exposed at the beach and walking down the street.

1:44 AM  
Blogger VDog said...

Right on!

I gotta take some pics like this!

We're almost 9 months in, and boy do I agree on the "degree" of difficulty.

3:05 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


9:45 AM  
Blogger Freckle Face Girl said...

Way to stand up for what you believe in!

9:53 AM  
Blogger Guinevere Meadow said...

Hooray for Damselfly!!! You tell 'em, sugar!

11:25 AM  
Anonymous Melissa Garrett said...

Jumping up and down applauding you!!

12:39 PM  
Blogger Damselfly said...

Thanks, everyone, for your support!

2:41 PM  
Blogger groovyoldlady said...

You go, girl! I am a REAL stickler for modesty. But I do NOT find photos of nursing babes offensive or in poor taste or whatever unless the mother is "showing off" excessively. Shame on Facebook!

6:52 PM  
Blogger Kristi said...

Bravo to you, Damselfly. We live in a country where women are highly encouraged to breastfeed their infants for the first year, at least. If you choose to formula-feed, you're often given a guilt trip. But then we have idiots like Facebook, and Bill Maher (whom I actually usually love) who turn breastfeeding in public or (gasp!) taking a picture of it, into a lewd, sexual act. Nice message, eh? "You better breastfeed if you want your baby to be healthy, but we never, EVER want to see you doing it."

Good for you for stickin' it to 'em.

7:58 PM  
Blogger Jozet said...

Beautiful photo!

And college degree hard? Damn straight, breastfeeding was hard and can be hard. Having to hide in a corner or public restoroom to feed your child makes it ridiculously harder.

12:40 AM  
Blogger AmandaD said...

Go mama! That is fierce, you are amazing, and, put simply and succinctly: they are dumb.

8:22 AM  
Blogger Mom101 said...

Good for you, mama!

8:38 AM  
Blogger Nap Warden said...

You know what...Hat's off to you! Breastfeeding is really hard, for me it was painful as well. I only lasted 5 weeks. Good for you!

2:31 PM  
Anonymous Margie said...

Way to go! I'm sorry breastfeeding was so hard for you. It isn't easy for anyone, but I remember you had a tougher time than most, so I'm really proud of you for sticking with it.

I don't have a facebook account, either (I have a MySpace one, though, and used to use it for my url when I'd comment here)--if I did, I would gladly delete it on the same basis.

Breastfeeding is beautiful. Our society is so messed up when things like this happen.

Thanks for doing this, and for getting the word out (I hadn't heard).

2:54 PM  
Blogger Leeanthro said...

I don't have a FB either, but I might sign up and cancel like you did.

If you've read my posts over the last few months, you know I've had a difficult time, too. It's only been in the last couple of weeks that I haven't had severe pain. And they say it's the most natural thing a woman could do.

I'm afraid he's self-weaning because if there is action in the room he wants to be upright to see it. He'd rather have a bottle in the day. He's also used to getting a bottle now while I'm at work. But he's still nursing well at night and I'm still pumping at work (ugh!).

I love your bravery at posting that picture. Maybe we should start a blog campaign to have other women do it.

Do you remember the parenting magazine that got lots of complaint letters because the cover had a woman breastfeeding?

I'm so going to post about this and link to you this weekend!

4:00 PM  
Anonymous Sadie said...

Hi there,
I just found your blog and feel like I stumbled upon a gem. I can't wait to read more. I have an almost one-year-old whom I am nursing and whom I also consider to be high need. And the first month or two of nursing was terribly hard for us, too.

Can't wait to read more!


7:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Love this post. I am nursing baby number 2 and after mastitis, thrush and bleeding nipples I am still charging ahead. Kudos to you for sticking it out, it encourages me to keep going...

3:19 PM  

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